I screwed up. I hurt the feelings of someone I love. She called me out on it and told me how wounding this was. I felt guilty and ashamed.
My family would tell you that I’m not good at apologizing. I don’t disagree. I’m not sure why this is so hard for me. I think it has to do with a belief that if I acknowledge my mistake, I acknowledge my imperfection. I mean, I KNOW (in my head, intellectually) how imperfect I am, but it’s a different thing for me to FEEL it deep down. It feels bad. And I don’t want to feel bad.
Over the years, I’ve become more aware of this blind spot and am making a concerted effort to address it. It starts with an apology. Not an “I’m sorry BUT…” A real apology that includes remorse, takes responsibility, and promises to do better. Full stop. (Yes, she accepted my apology.)
YOUR TURN: How quick are you to acknowledge the hurts you cause others? How easy is it for you to give a fulsome apology?